Kathy,
I am praying with you for Chris, and a good lesson learned for him.
Huggs!
Virgie At 09:17 PM 5/14/2005, you wrote:

>Hi guys,
>         Well, our visit with Chris was uneventful this afternoon.  His
>girlfriend's mother and grandmother did show up, but not the girl
>herself.  It was just strange.  You see, where we visit,, it is a room with
>tables that can seat four people.  Right now, with Chris being only
>detained, he can only be visited by his legal guardians, which means
>us.  There isn't supposed to be any mingling among the tables, but Chris
>has already made it clear that if his girl shows up, he will find it hard
>to restrain himself.  It isn't worth it to point out that that is how he
>got in trouble in the first place.  Men and their raging
>hormones!!  Honestly!!
>         Anyway, I wrote, and sent a special letter to him today, that is
> pretty
>hard hitting.  He will probably get it on Monday or Tuesday.  Would you
>please pray that he at least read it all the way through?  Don't worry,
>we've been writing to him almost every day, but this letter is different
>because it is pretty blunt about my feelings of parenting him over the past
>four years.  It also, pretty much, closes the door to the possibility of
>his coming home unless we see some real change.  Please pray that he will
>read this letter all the way through.  Also, I have asked him to
>respond.  He claims that he has a lot of time on his hands so why not.  I'm
>hoping that we will finally get a lot of things on the table that need to
>be dealt with without the emotional baggage that so often happens when
>trying to have a conversation face to face.
>         Also, we have applied for a court appointed lawyer.  If we don't
> get one,
>we will have to pay for the lawyer ourselves.  How's that for an ironic
>twist, the plaintiffs paying for the defendant's lawyer.  anyway, we have
>talked with a lawyer that we do know.  He used to be the principle at
>Bangor Christian when Chris attended there and he gave us a lot of good
>advice.  He said that if Chris pleads guilty that a court appointed lawyer
>will do fine, but if Chris wants to plead "not guilty," we will have to
>hire a lawyer  for  ourselves and for chris. Yes, that is two
>lawyers.   Also, the lawyer that we talked too said that with Greg being a
>pastor, the judge will pretty much already be prejudiced against Chris
>because we have nothing to gain personally if Chris is found guilty.  In
>fact, it may end up looking bad for us in the community.  I don't think so
>in our case.  Our church has been pretty supportive, but you never know
>what the fringe gossips will make of this.  It's such a juicy
>morssel!  Anyway, I am praying that we can convince Chris to simply plead
>guilty.  I think that it will go better for us all around if he does,
>including a lighter sentence for him.  You guys, a fiction writer couldn't
>have made life more strange for me right now.
>         Of course, our main prayer is that Chris will grow in Christ.  He
> tells us
>that he has learned his lesson; that he never wants to be back in jail
>again, but his reasons for not repeating are more external at present, they
>do not appear to come from a truly repentent heart.  Well, I keep reminding
>myself that he is only 17.  Where there is breath there is hope.
>Happy pentecost Sunday everybody!  What a wonderful gift to celebrate!
>God bless,
>Kathy
>
>
>
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