Hi Kathy,
O My goodness! I can't believe this either cathy.
I am just back on now after several days of computer problems, and am just
reading thse messages now.  Now wonder I have had a burden for you for the
last several days.

I have never had children.  A part of me would love to prosecute to the
fullest extent of the law.  But as I write I here the words, "Chris wants
attention, and needs attention..
I am reminded of an incident from my past.  This may not relate at all, and
I'm not really fond of all the psychological aspects that have crept into
christian counselling.
Well, here it goes--feel free to delete.

In 1985, My step father passed away and my wife and I came all the way from
Northen B.C. Canada to be with my mom in New Jersey.
This was tough on mom because this was the second husband who had died of a
heart attack, and my mom ultimately didn't recover from this blow.

Anyway, Kathy,
After the funeral, my brother wanted to go out for a walk with me--something
he never did before.  He was drunk.
As we walked he told me that he had always been jealous of me, because I got
all the attention, because of blindness, polio, and all the other things I
went through.
He felt like when he was growing up that he never had his parent's full
attention, except when he had done something bad.
Since then, we have been closer, though we are totally opposite, and not
really close at all.
So I wonder that because Greg is on the front lines as a pastor, and you are
blind, if something in Chris feels neglected.
I don't know how you deal with that, if that is the case, except to ask the
Lord to show you.  That is the only thing that works anyway.
God bless.
            With Concern and love,
Vinny
----- Original Message -----
From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Friday, November 12, 2004 5:41 AM
Subject: You won't believe what my son Chris has done now!


> HI Everybody,
> Well, here we go again. Guess what Chris did last night! He and two
> friends broke into our church and were running around the sanctuary with
> some toy guns that Chris had made. Guess how we found out? The police
> called us around 2:00 am. This morning. Greg had to go up to our church.
> He let the two friends go because Greg doesn't think that they would have
> thought of doing something like this without Chris's influence. I don't
> mean that they were totally innocent, I just mean that they wouldn't have
> thought of using the church as a play ground without Chris because only
> Chris knows how to break in. Anyway, Chris was belligerent. The police
> threatened to arrest him if Chris didn't sign the court summons. Now Greg
> and I have to let the church know about all this because they should have
> some say in who gets charged as well.
> Guys, I woke up this morning, after very little sleep, and I just started
> crying to God. I am so ashamed of the mockery that Chris made of the
> sanctuary last night.
> Also, I have to be alone with Chris today. The younger kids have school
> today, but Chris is off. Greg has to take the car in for repares and if
> he can't get a loaner, I'm stuck. I'd go with Greg, but Chris's friends
> have developed the habit of popping in unannounced and I don't trust
> them.
> Oh Guys, please pray me through this latest one. Thank you so much for
> being there for me. Now Chris is starting to mess with the things of God.
> Am I a rotten mother for wanting God to lower the boom swiftly? I don't
> like grace very much right now.
> Kathy
>
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