You are being very loving and setting up fair boundaries.  You seem to be
more concerned with their safety than them.  At 11:51 PM 09/01/2004, you wrote:
>Dear Loving EChurch Family,
>
>I just wanted to share some experiences with you that we've had with our
>neighbors. Amy, Troy, and the little 7 year old is Victoria. They call her
>Tori.
>
>They came here about 6 weeks ago from MN. The first week was interesting.
>We tried to be the loving neighbors we should be by having them come over
>and sit with us and visit on our back deck and we offered them something
>cold to drink. It was nice, and they seemed very nice.
>
>The next thing we new, Troy, was asking Vernon if he could borrow his
>tools. It wasn't just one tool, but it was one time, was one thing, and
>then another time he wanted to borrow something else. Vernon did not lend
>him anything. He just told Troy he didn't have that particular tool.
>
>Then one night, Vernon was gone, over to Dean's house helping Dean, and
>Troy came over and asked if he could borrow Vernon's garden hose. I was
>really put in a spot, and I told him where Vernon was, and he went over and
>asked him. I didn't know what else to do. Vernon let him use the hose
>because it was right outside where Troy could see it. This was getting old,
>and fast.
>
>Then they started parking their vehicles on our lawns, and they own 2 vans,
>a truck, a car, and 2 Harley bikes.
>
>Tori would come over and we would visit and talk and have fun. I love these
>people a lot, but there's more.
>
>I had mentioned earlier when we first met them, that we would have to have
>a grill out with them.
>
>Amy, Troy, and Tori were outside when we were walking over to Dean's one
>Saturday, and Amy asked me if we wanted to grill out on Sunday, we said yes.
>
>I made a potato salad that afternoon, and she and Tori came over Sunday
>morning, while Vernon was gone, and we talked about what we were going to
>have. Everything was fine.
>
>They came over that afternoon, and we had some cold beers to drink, and
>then it started to rain. We went in the house and drank our beers.
>
>We had a great visit, and we were still able to grill outside as it stopped
>raining. She brought plenty of things to eat, as she did provide the meat,
>and buns, and I made the salads. It was very nice.
>
>After supper, Tori was jumping on the banasters, and Vernon told her to
>stop. She would jump from the banaster to Troy's back. Not cool.
>
>Then, she was playing with my Christmas ball that has the Christmas sceen
>inside of it, and you winde it up, and it plays Christmas songs. She was
>being kind of rough with it. Vernon told her it was not a toy.
>
>I tried to play the organ for them, but Tori was not interested in it at all.
>
>They soon left, and went home.
>
>The next Sunday, Amy asked us if we wanted to have another grill out. They
>had their grill this time, and so we said sure. She made a roast on the
>grill, and did potatos and carrotts and onions in packetts. I can't
>remember what I made. Tori and I sat outside on their property and shucked
>the sweet corn. It was fun.
>
>Then, Tori, Troy and I played a game where you have 2 golf balls on a heavy
>string, and you have this kind of a ladder thing, where you throw the
>string, and it's suppose to go over one of the rungs. This ladder is made
>out of black pipe and fittings. Troy found a piece of black pipe out in our
>yard and picked it up and said he was going to use it. He didn't ask us
>first. This ladder thing has 3 rungs on it. The bottom is worth 15 points,
>the next one up is worth 10 points, and the top one is worth 5 points. It's
>about 3 feet high.
>
>You stand up and throw the string with the two balls on it, and you have to
>hit these rungs. If two people hit the same rung, it is canceled out and no
>one gets any points. It's kind of fun.
>
>Remember this, though, because I have more to tell you. Remember the galf
>balls and they can slide from one end of the string to the other.
>
>They were gone last weekend. They came back Sunday afternoon with a trailor
>of stuff, and the van that Amy uses at work because she had been on a work
>assignment. She works for Legend seed here in De Smet.
>
>They unloaded everything, including their 2 Harley's. They parked them on
>the sidewalk which is not legal.
>
>I think it was the next day that Vernon told Troy that he could get a
>ticket for parking the bikes on the side walk because they are licensed
>vehicles. They said they would check it out. He also told Troy that if I
>were to try and walk down the street, I would fall over them and could get
>hurt.
>
>Then, that evening, on Monday, Tori was playing that game I told you about.
>She was in front of her house. Our houses are close together. I heard
>something hit the window, and I called to Vernon. He saw Tori throwing
>these balls against our house. He went outside and asked her to stop. She
>was playing that game on the side or front of their house, and that's not
>the place to play that game. They have plenty of room in the back yard.
>
>I talked to Troy that night, and he said that Tori needs to throw things. I
>said that she should play out in the back and not in the front. He told me
>that he wouldn't let her play that game here, and that she would have to
>play it on their 2 lots where they are building their house here in town.
>He thought that Vernon was just being frustrated, but what she was doing
>was not right.
>
>I haven't seen them since, and they haven't spoke to us since. I was going
>to invite them to my birthday party, but now, I'm not sure. I don't want
>them to be mad at us, but they really don't dicipline Tori enough. They let
>her do what ever she wants to do.
>
>I would love your thoughts on this, please.
>
>Thanks for listening to me ramble. Please pray for us with this situation,
>as I do like them.
>
>Thanks for praying.
>
>Love and Blessings,
>Pat Ferguson