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Date: | Thu, 12 Feb 2004 09:01:34 -0600 |
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Hi, I hated to write under Phil's subject line as I know you guys are
talking back and forth under that one about other stuff which is more to
your original point.
I read some of them though and this subject of children resenting a parent's
blindness was of interest to me.
I am not there yet of course, but it is interesting to consider it may
someday happen. My anger says that you guys should say something really
mean back to these kids to put there minds right immediately.
Kind of a slap in the face to shock them into reality sort of thought!
However, I realize that this is just anger speaking and that it usually
isn't steering me in the right direction.
Still, I don't think it would be right to put yourself on the defensive in
saying something like, "You are my child and I happen to be disabled and you
are just going to have to deal with it."
That sounds too much like you are sorry that they have to grow up this way
and that's not right.
It's no body's fault that you are disabled parents and no matter who the kid
is, there will be problems in life which they have to over come. That's
part of growing up.
Terri's teenaged cousin recently threw a fit because she wanted something
and her parents couldn't afford it.
It was probably not something essential and they should have dealt with it
in that manner but instead they told her a truth about there financial
situation.
The truth was that her father, who is a long range truck driver had just
lost his job because it was found that he had been using illegal drugs to
stay awake while making a run. The difference in this situation is that he
was in the wrong and it is something he could help.
This issue of a disability, though, is quite different. I would suggest you
not fall into the behavior of feeling sorry for your kids, or putting
yourself on he defensive. I am not sure of the proper response to give
though.
What do you guys think is right?
Matt
Wives, the bible tells you how to change a man.
In first Peter 3 1 it says that you can change him without a word as he
observes your good behavior.
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