Kathy I am praying for you and Phil is right it is good for us to know the
details I know its not easy and I know your frustrated and I'm sorry its sad
that the system and kids are on the same side when it should be the parents
and the government hugs


Lelia Struve email [log in to unmask] msn [log in to unmask]
----- Original Message -----
From: "Pat Ferguson" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Tuesday, August 31, 2004 6:16 PM
Subject: Re: My son Chris, again!


> Oh Kathy! You poor loving one! I'm so sorry to hear all this! I got tears
> in my eyes reading your message.
>
> You don't want to know what I think of our police force today.
>
> I'm praying for you! More lovings and squeezings for you!
>
> Love and Blessings,
> Pat Ferguson
>
>
> At 06:50 PM 8/31/04, you wrote:
> >Thank you Sandy and Lelia, and everybody really!  I am so glad that I
> >have all of you to turn to when this stuff happens.
> >
> >This evening, I just couldn't stand it any more.  Chris was in the
> >kitchen and I went out to him and I asked if I could have a hug.  At
> >first he resisted, but then, he yielded and gave me a big hug and kiss
> >and appologized.  He admitted  that he's stressed out with school
> >starting and drivers Ed. and his job.  I just listened and didn't lecture
> >or anything.  I pray that he will go back to Eric because his way of
> >handling stress is really inappropriate and he needs to learn some
> >techniques for handling it better.  Plus, there is this whole legal
> >thing!!  The police were a joke today.  How frustrating!
> >
> >By the way, remember the court date that we had for last March?  Well, we
> >found out more about what happened to that today.  We started  int
> >calling around on our own, after the police walked out on us.  We called
> >our local probation officer and found out that she still had our name
> >from last March, but that the charges had been dropped.  Really?  Not by
> >us!!  We had been told to wait for the paper work to catch up with the
> >case so we trusted in the system.  Oh, foolish us!  We didn't drop the
> >case, the officer did, evidently.  Now, Greg has called that officer back
> >to find out why, but, of course, he hasn't returned the call yet.  I
> >think that the policeman today was almost laughing at us.  Chris had put
> >a fist on my chin and then said that he would rather beat up Greg, rather
> >than a blind woman, so he called Greg on the phone and tried to have him
> >walk into an ambush.  I mannaged to get out and met Greg in the driveway
> >and told him not to go in.  He had started banging things around while I
> >was still in the house and it had sounded as if he had smashed the
> >digital camera so I was glad to get out.    We called the police on the
> >cell phone in the driveway and the police said that that wasn't enough to
> >charge Chris with criminal intent.  The policeman said that he would have
> >to be able to prove that Chris was trying to kill us or himself before he
> >could do anything.  We have nowhere to send him and no one will take him.
> >  Oh, I'm so sick of Maine!!  If that doesn't prove that Chris has all
the
> >rights under the law, I don't know what does.  Oh sure, we can take stuff
> >away, and if he doesn't like it and trashes the house, we truthfully face
> >at least a fifty fifty chance that the courts will side with him that
> >we're just too controling.  You really have to be a creative parent today
> >to survive.  Oh well, enough venting for one note.
> >God bless, everybody and thanks for the prayers.  I just pray that  Chris
> >will go see Eric tomorrow, but, it's not looking too good for our team at
> >this point.
> >Kathy
> >
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