Shelly and Brad,
I agree. Good wise advice Brad.
Vicki
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From: "BD" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2004 9:40 PM
Subject: Re: trusting strangers
> Shelly,
>
> No that is not paranoid. It is prudent and wise. And I think you are wise
> to accept female help as far as the travel thing goes. I think anytime a
> man and woman are anywhere that might lead to seclusion, there is
potential
> danger for both. A woman for the obvious, and in some cases perhaps even a
> man, but also for a man being falsely accused of advances which never
> occur. Even elderly people who one might think is harmless may not be. I
> guess I'd rather a friend from church or someone you know help you rather
> than a stranger. This is not an age of times in which to put vulnerability
> in the hands of a stranger.
>
> Brad
>
>
>
>
> Shelly Pryor wrote:
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> >Ok guys here's the situation. i've been looking for someone to help me =
> >with getting out and learning my nieghborhood, so I've put word out. =
> >Well a guy has offered. Apparently he walks everyday.=20
> >So
> >How on earth do I know if I can trust this guy? I mean 99 out of a 100 =
> >guys r fine decnet people, but how do I know if he's the one out of 100.
=
> >I haven't said officially yes. i told him to come find me tomorrow in =
> >the dining room because it's public. and I'm hoping to ask my manager =
> >although I'm not sure he'll say anything tenant privacy and all that.=20
> >I'm feeling frustrated right now. I always feel so vulnerable if I'm =
> >walking alone I feel afriad, so I don't do it. Interacting with =
> >strangers also makes me fearful. Not only am I blind, but I'm small and =
> >not strong. Do I even remember the self defense I learned in high =
> >school?=20
> >Would I feel any of this if this were a female? Probably not.=20
> >Is that fair?=20
> >=20
> >This is certainly not the first time I've thought about this stuff. =
> >Every time I've had a new person to come help me clean or run errands I =
> >wonder the same things. Even though they've always been female will they
=
> >steal my stuff, will they try to harm me in some way? I even feel it =
> >getting in to a car with someone I don't know what if they don't drive =
> >safely? How can u know anything about anyone?=20
> >Ok, so when a hired a driver I asked for references.=20
> >I am the only blind person i know who thinks these things. Am I wierd to
=
> >paranoid?
> >Shelly
> >
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> >Ok guys here's the situation. i've been = looking for=20 someone to help
> >me with getting out and learning my nieghborhood, so = I've put=20 word
> >out. Well a guy has offered. Apparently he walks everyday. =
> >So
> >How on earth do I know if I can trust = this guy? I=20 mean 99 out of a
> >100 guys r fine decnet people, but how do I know if = he's the=20 one out
> >of 100. I haven't said officially yes. i told him to come find = me=20
> >tomorrow in the dining room because it's public. and I'm hoping to = ask
> >my=20 manager although I'm not sure he'll say anything tenant privacy and
> >all = that.=20
> >I'm feeling frustrated right now. I = always feel so=20 vulnerable if I'm
> >walking alone I feel afriad, so I don't do it. = Interacting=20 with
> >strangers also makes me fearful. Not only am I blind, but I'm small = and
> >not=20 strong. Do I even remember the self defense I learned in high
> >school?=20
> >Would I feel any of this if this were a = female?=20 Probably not.
> >Is that fair?
> >
> >This is certainly not the first time = I've thought=20 about this stuff.
> >Every time I've had a new person to come help me clean = or run=20
errands
> >I wonder the same things. Even though they've always been female =
will=20
> >they steal my stuff, will they try to harm me in some way? I even feel =
> >it=20 getting in to a car with someone I don't know what if they don't
> >drive = safely?=20 How can u know anything about anyone?
> >Ok, so when a hired a driver I asked = for=20 references.
> >I am the only blind person i know who = thinks these=20 things. Am I
wierd
> >to paranoid?
> >Shelly
> >
> >
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> Brad
>
> Compassion is difficult to give away because it keeps coming back
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