I think it was in the attitude when God called them on it.  The "not me.
Why, never." sort of thing.

On your other subject of marriage taking work, and work, and work.  Grin.
We had some friends.  We knew them when they were single.  At first we only
knew her.  They dated a long time before they got married.  Then it looked
so good; so perfect, if you will.  They were married about 10 years.  She
never wanted kids but he did.  But through medical circumstance it was
determined that it was best for her to have a hysterectomy.  The week before
she went in for the surgery she got pregnant.  Never did have the
hysterectomy.  Within 5 years the marriage ended in a horrible divorce.  And
they were separated before I even knew it.  But everybody who knew them,
even people close to them, were quite taken by surprise.  They were both
real quite and soft spoken too.  So it sure can happen.  Gotta watch out for
those quiet ones.

Vicki

----- Original Message -----
From: "Matt" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Monday, February 16, 2004 1:59 PM
Subject: Re: Proverbs


> Hah, well then, just make me have to stop and think then Vicki.
> Pride for Adam as well?
> I figure with Adam it was indifference or laziness in that he took no
action
> when he saw his wife talking to the serpent.  Pride might have come in
after
> they realized they were naked?
> Or, when god called them on what they had done.
> Certainly with Adam there because he responded by trying to deflect the
> blame to his wife.
> It's this woman you gave to be with me.
> He was either blaming the woman or god or I guess both really.
> Not only was it her fault, but you're the one who brought her here god.
> Yes, I guess pride came in on both sides before all was done.
> But, as we have said ever since, us men with fingers pointing, she started
> it!  hahahahahahahahahah
> That's why marriage takes work, you both have to start taking
responsibility
> for your part in it.
> While I'm on this topic of marriage requiring work.
> It's interesting how we will see a couple who seems to be doing great and
we
> envy them.
> Gee, if I had their relationship, I could be happy too, but this one of
mine
> is such work!
> Truth is, if that couple truly does have a good marriage, it hasn't
happened
> by accident, they have worked at it as well.
> I can think of two couples, off hand, who we thought really had it going
on.
> Well, one was a couple we knew and another was a couple my brother knew.
> Mine is this cousin and his wife who we are watching struggle just now.
> They seemed to have it all together and the business was good, the kids
were
> their, the wife seemed like a giving, hard working, wonder woman, my
cousin
> seemed to be a bit of a know it all, but it didn't seem to matter.
> Well, as evidence has shown, things weren't that great after all.
> This other couple my brother told me about, just didn't argue and they
spoke
> softly to each other.
> It seemed amazing how well they communicated.
> Well, as that one turned out, it seems they weren't communicating so well
> after all, as the wife came home from work early one day and found her
> husband in a sexual act with his best friend, who, by the way, was a man.
> Can I hear a collective scream?
> hahahahahahhah
> I heard the following today.
> The saying goes, the grass is always greener on the other side of the
fence?
> Well, two things about that.
> First is, if the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it
just
> means that you haven't been taking proper care of your own grass on your
own
> side of the fence.
> Second, if the grass looks greener on your neighbors side of the fence,
it's
> only because you can't see the pet poop from your vantage point over there
> in your own yard.
>
> Take Care,
>
> Matt
>