Paul, I don't think it's fair to expect people to read our minds.  I think
if you're thinking someone should pick you up or you'd like them to, you
need to communicate that to them.  I, as someone who needs rides and can't
drive herself, know how hard it is to ask for help.  But I also know how
frustrating it is to be willing to help and have someone who's afraid to
ask for it trying to act like they don't need it or don't want to impose,
and finally getting it out of them that they really would like the help but
don't want to inconvenience the giver.  It's more of an inconvenience to
have to guess and wonder, etc.  <smile>

Peggy
At 05:36 PM 1/9/2004 -0500, you wrote:
>Okay, asking your opinion on a situation that happened today.  We had cruddy
>weather today, rain, sleet, it's even supposed to snow tonight.  And knowing
>I don't like to drive in that stuff my buddy has offered in the past to
>drive me in to work and has done it once or twice before.  Last time he said
>to call next time I needed a ride in.   So today when it was so crummy I
>thought he would be coming to pick me up and didn't call. (It's not a big
>deal because I had stuff I could work on at home and could actually do
>better at home anyway.)  He wrote from work and asked why I hadn't called
>and I said that I didn't want to impose. Even though he offered, he has a
>wife and daughter and the situation could have changed so I thought if he
>could pick me up, he would, and if not, he wouldn't.  Besides, he's my
>friend but he's also a full Colonel (one-step below a General).  He wrote
>back and said that was B S.  So what do you think?  Should I call him next
>time, even though he knows where I live and already made the offer and knows
>I need a ride?  Or should he just know I need the ride and show up if he
>can?
>
>Clueless in Columbia

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