Hi, Rhonda, Kathy, and Paul,

The thing I don't understand is why the police officer who ticketed Christa
for going through a yellow light, didn't make an issue of her learners
permit.  Did he not notice that Rhonda is blind?  Is that why he didn't ask
to see her license?
And if it is against the law in Pennsylvania to drive on a learners permit
without a licensed driver with you, why did he not indicate that on that
occasion?
If I missed something in this thread, forgive my wonderings.  <smile>

Love to all,
Helen

At 04:40 PM 12/21/03 -0500, you wrote:
>I feel convicted after reading Kathy's message to confess that I did some
>back peddling after saying Christa shouldn't be driving Rhonda alone and
>that there should be some other means to do it but then going back on that.
>I said "the end doesn't justify the means" but backed off when I sensed Brad
>was saying I was being "holier than thou" (though he didn't say that in so
>many words).  Although I do think there needs to be justice with compassion,
>and I hope that would be applied if the situation with Rhonda and Christa
>ever came to light, I should have (like Kathy) encouraged Rhonda to find
>another way rather than to encourage her to keep on this same track.  This
>latest incident shows the very lack of judgment which has youngsters like
>Christa unable to drive alone without someone licensed alongside to help
>make critical decisions in a crisis.
>
>I don't have the answers, other than suggesting again as I did before and as
>Kathy repeated about talking to agencies and the hospital chaplain and local
>churches.  David seems to do some things that are wrong but he does them
>anyway to get out of tough situations in the Bible.  I can't explain all of
>that.  But I do know that until we're sure there are absolutely no other
>ways to do it (and we know now there is paratransit and possibly other ways
>the chaplain and other services may know about), Christa shouldn't be
>driving without another driver in the car.
>
>Thanks to Kathy for confronting me about it.
>
>Paul
>
>
> > Rhonda,
> > I just have to tell you, as a friend, that I'm having a problem with
> > Krista even driving you to the hospital with only a drivers permit!  I'm
> > sorry, and I suppose that some on this list will judge me as hard nosed,
> > but I just believe that she shouldn't even be doing that!  Especially,
> > now that you've told us that you do have another way to get there, but it
> > just isn't as convenient.  What have you taught your daughter about
> > respect for rules and authority?  I can understand why she might be
> > confused about using the car for you, but not for her interests.  I just
> > hope that she doesn't turn what she is learning back on you and begin
> > disrespecting your authority and judgment as well, especially with
> > relationships.  She needs you to be level headed now more than ever!    I
> > know that others on this list have given you a pass on this issue because
> > we all understand that you want to be with your husband at this time, but
> > it is in the hard times that we build character and it is as our
> > character is being formed that our children are watching.  I'll get off
> > my soap box now, but please re-think this whole thing!  Please!  Have you
> > talked to the hospital chaplain yet or the salvation army? Have you found
> > out more about other churches in your area?
> > Kathy
> >
> >