Hey, Matt
I think you hit on exactly what my obsession about a sweetie is all about. Mine was a very dysfunctional family as they say. A lot of nasty stuff growing up which my brothers and sisters have never come to grips with and I'm the one who tells the truth, so between that and being a Christian, a totally different creature from them, they want nothing to do with me. Add to that they cheated me out of my mother's inheritance (which she only left out of guilt, but that's another long story. Smile.) Anyway, my point is that yes, the LORD lets folks marry so we can form families of our own, as you say. As Scripture says, He puts the lonely in families. That's what I'm hoping (there that word is again) for, but it's not happening.
For those of you who will encourage me to make amends with my family, I've tried, it's not from my side. We're told "as much as is in your power" to be at peace with others, but sometimes it's beyond your power and the toxic nature of their lives is too poisonous an atmosphere to be in.
Paul
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From: Matt <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Dec 16, 2003 10:25 PM
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Subject: Re: job maybe?
It is depressing when people don't welcome us as we expect they will.
However, it is comforting to note that we marry to form our own family and
that as soon as we do marry everyone else, including our parents,
grandparents, brothers and sisters, cousins, aunts and uncles and
grandparents immediately take a backseat in priority.
TV and such has perverted the idea of marage. It used to be put across that
when a wife takes a husband, she is like a child who in her weakness has to
train under her mother-in-law to learn how to serve her husband or something
like that.
My wife tried this approach and found a poor sorce of information in my
mother. hahahahahaha
Likewise, I could not have learned the things needed for me to know from
Terri's family in how to care for her as they had screwed up relationships
as well.
The men in her family more or less told me that marage is hell and you just
have to deal with a life of unhappyness as that was what they were doing and
the women just tried to manipulate me and/or teach Terri how to manipulate
me to get what they wanted from us and for Terri.
This is why the bible says that you leave your families and cleave together.
Well enough preaching from a father who has a screamming child just now.
Instituting a new 9 o'clock bedtime with bottle until asleep and then taken
away as not to rot the teeth so that maybe we can work on this sanity and
marage thing.
Matt
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