Hi Beth,

  I spoke with the doctor, and he said he was not allowed to tell me what is wrong, he knows about it and feels my Dad can provide the right care and is able to do so. So based on her statement - that Papa passed on - she wants people to remember her as she was - I am assuming she dying from something - if nothing else from sheer stubbornness. I am also assuming she is having a tough time with it. I will leave it alone. I am sorry she doesn't want our love and support. I feel bad for Amber - she is very attached to her Grandma. Ironically after just talking to her - she is fine with this. So I guess I will be also. 

                                                        Trisha

> -----Original Message-----
> From: Elizabeth H. Thiers [SMTP:[log in to unmask]]
> Sent: Thursday, August 07, 2003 1:48 PM
> To:   [log in to unmask]
> Subject:      Re: Need help for my dad
> 
> Sometimes the hardest thing in the world is to go against the wishes of a
> loved one, especially when it is your parents.  If you can, go see your
> Mother anyways.  I agree, there must be something going on and you need to
> find a way to assess it.  Do they have friends or other relatives you get on
> your side to help you?
> Here in Florida, if you think someone might be a danger to themselves or
> others, you can Baker Act them for 72 hours.  They are basically sent to the
> public mental health ward for observation.  In this area either the local ER
> does the job or they send to police out for you (I got a really funny story
> about that one).  That's rather drastic however, depends on how comfortable
> and how well you feel like forcing your mother to some type of treatment.
> Even getting her to an ER or getting an ambulance to the house for some
> medical attention.
> It's not easy raising your parents, I hope for the best for you.
> 
> 
> Beth t. The OT
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
> Subject: Need help for my dad
> 
> 
> Hi All,
> 
>    I have not spoken to my mother since father day. Evidently, my mom =
> got very sick shortly after that. She has told Papa we are not to visit =
> - she will not talk to us, and we are not allowed to know what's wrong - =
> its personal. All I can get out of my Dad is she refuses to see anyone, =
> talk  to anyone - which includes him part of the time - wants us to =
> remember her as she was, she is also refusing to get medical care.  Does =
> anyone have any idea what can be done to help him? Can I force medical =
> care on her? Should I abide by her wishes? She has always been about =
> pride and appearences. Ideas?
> 
>                                                     Trisha