Jennifer,

   Sorry your family was so negative. I expect my daughter to have kids - or
at least a kid. I have let her know I expect to be a grandmother - later -
she is only 15 now. Okay so we have to figure out some stuff - on the other
hand - she will have a hubby. I understand men are very capable beings.  I
might have some concerns if a baby stayed a baby its whole life - but before
you know it - they are feeding themselves - as well as everything in 2 mile
radius - and they are dressing themselves - badly coordinated and backwords
and they are potty trainable!!! Cool!!! A miniture human!!! You can have
best conversations with kids and they will love you - unconditionally ( at
least till they become a teen). There is nothing more life reaffirming than
watching your child sleep. Or more peaceful than a 2am feeding - when its
just you and the baby sharing time. Of all the things life - being Amber's
mom - is the best and most satisfying thing I do. Enjoy motherhood!!!

                             Brightest Blessings - Trisha

> you feel all too well.... but my negativity came from my own family.. My
> mother used to tell me that I should never have children because of the
> incredible challange it would pose for me and she thought that maybe my
> children would be "deprived" of something  because of my Cp.,. When I met
> and
> fell in love with Chris, it seems every discussion we hadn(my mother and
> i)
> included talk of birth control pills and the norplant shots...
> This filled my head with doubt and when we decided to start tryiing to
> conceive, I did all the research I could... I got in touch with THROUGH
> THE
> LOOKING GLASS which was an incredible source of support for me... They
> have a
> really nice adaptive baby care book that I purchased and I know now I can
> take care of Ava despite the limited use of my left arm/hand (very
> limited)...I have met and spoke with women with many more limitations that
> I
> have and have done EXCELLENT jobs as mommy's...
> However, we will all go through challanges as mothers... the challanges
> for
> us with cp are just more noticible....
> I hope & pray you will one day get your wish:)
> Jennifer