Hi Mag,

  Your assistant, while with you, is "working". Behaviour such as she is
exhibiting would not be tolerated in the "traditional" workplace were she
spoken to by her boss. You are her boss, and you have spoken to her. In the
meantime, I'd put in for another assistant and tell her she will be
terminated if her behaviour persists. If she wants to ogle guys, suggest she
work in a bar. If your personal safety were jeopardized by her lack of
attention, who then is responsible?

Cheers!

Carla
http://www.brunnet.net/terrier

----- Original Message -----
From: Magenta Raine <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Thursday, July 26, 2001 12:13 AM
Subject: personailty conflict with assistant*


> Hello everybody,
>
> I've got a problem. Here's the scenario.  My PCA & I go out, and she
flirts
> with any man who even glances her way.  It's annoying. Today, we were on a
> walk home, and there is this male postal worker in shorts. she goes up to
him
> and says something like "ooh, nice legs!"  I could not believe it. I was
so
> embarrassed. I told her not to do that when she is with me, and now she is
> mad at me. The point is that when she is with me, she is an assistive
person,
> and when she flirts -- which she says is her way of being friendly that
she
> is not representing my interests. She has in the past teased MY doctors
about
> their eyes or hair, and I've asked her not to do that. Yet she still
managed
> to say something last time I was in the doc's office.  she may have a
starved
> ego, and may need the attention, but I maintain that it's not her place to
> have her ego stoked while she's on the job. I told her it borders on
sexual
> harassment, and she doesn't see it at all. Then she wonders why men are
> constantly all over her when we are out together. They want her number,
and
> don't even see I'm there. I've termed it the "guide dog syndrome" in that
> when blind people walk their dogs, people pay attention to the dog, not
the
> person handling it. This has never happened with my other assistants... So
> guys, any advice or opinions, how do I handle this? Gary?  Nick are you
here
> yet?